Master Coach Linda Bucher was my guest again on Catch Good Health Radio today, and we spoke about the language of freedom. Oh my goodness… If you aren’t familiar with Linda, she is quite a power house, and an excellent teacher too. I love having her on CGH Radio!
Before you read any further, ask yourself if you feel the language you use empowers you, or puts you on the express train towards “victimville.” (Wish I could take credit for “victimville,” but I can’t. It’s Linda’s creation. Love that too.)
Linda shared some limiting words and phrases that many of us use regularly, such as- want, need, can’t, have to, either/or, and should. Any chance you’ve used one of these in the last 24 hours? I have. (Yes, I am now walking along the life coach walk of shame…)
Truth be told, I have altered much of my communication and language over the last several years, but some of these limiting words do slip out of my mouth still, even with all the training I’ve had. Our show was the nudge I needed to pay more attention to it. Perhaps it’ll be yours too.
Today’s show was LOADED with lots of tips and great examples of things you can do- beginning right now- to adjust your language and add more freedom to your life. To come from a place of abundance, instead of a place of deprivation. To get back to being you.
Here’s just a small portion of what Linda shared:
- Replace the words “want” and “need” with “love.” Instead of “I need more money,” it becomes “I’d love more money.” Instead of “I want my favorite hibachi dinner tonight,” it would be “I’d love my favorite hibachi dinner tonight.”
- Replace the words “can’t” and “have to” with “choose.” This is another biggie. Instead of “I can’t go out tonight,” it becomes “I choose not to go out tonight.” We all have MANY choices daily, even if we’re telling ourselves that we don’t. With those choices come consequences, but that doesn’t mean we didn’t have a choice to begin with.
- Replace either/or phrases with “and.” An example would be telling yourself that you can “either do what I love or make money.” Start saying “I can do what I love AND make money.”
- Replace “should” with “choose.” ”Shoulds” are loaded words. They indicate there’s a judgement of some kind. ”I should food shop” can be morphed in our brains into “I should food shop and if I don’t, I’m a bad mom because I didn’t food shop and I should have…” ”I’m choosing to,” or “I’m choosing not to food shop” is a much more empowering idea. Next time you say “should,” ask yourself what the judgement is. Then ask yourself if it’s true. Trust your inner voice on this one.
For those of you with a chronic condition, or chronic illness, any chance you say either of the following statements? “I have (enter diagnosis here),” or “I’m a (enter diagnosis here) patient.” If so…try changing this up too. See how this feels- “I experience (enter diagnosis here).” Because, really, it’s an experience. It’s not an identity, and not a role. It’s an experience. If we buy into it being our identity or our role, it becomes just that. This is something I learned many years ago that really helped me stay balanced and find healing.
To learn more about the language of freedom and Linda’s “belief continuum,” click here:
Good health is contagious…pass it on!